What Do Men and Women Really Want for Valentine’s Day? The Answers Aren’t As Complicated As You Think
By Lucia Peters
Much is often made about figuring out what men and women really want for Valentine’s Day, but you know what? It turns out the answers aren’t all that complicated. Matchmaking service It’s Just Lunch (which you might remember from that poll about whether sports and relationships mix) surveyed 1,000 of its users to get to the bottom of this often-considered question — and not only are the results not surprising, they’re actually kind of comforting. Generally, it seems like we all just want to have a nice meal and spend some quality time with our loved ones. Isn’t that nice? When you get past all the floofy decorations, florid prose, and questionable boxes of chocolates that inevitably appear during the first few weeks of February, that’s exactly what Valentine’s Day should be about: Appreciating the people you love.
In an article posted on yourtango.com on September 12th, author Kait Smith discusses “3 Modern Day Deal Breakers”. The post references an it’s Just Lunch survey that interviewed over 1600 people. Respondents were asked whether income, education and career matter when seeking a partner. Questions were specific to work, education and money. Smith argues the results show that some women are still looking for protectors and times have not changed as much as we might think.
Online dating photos can motivate us to make a decision about a person too quickly. Frank Partnoy summarizes his new book “Wait: The Art and Science of Delay” and references It’s Just Lunch as one of his case study examples in this short KPBS News video clip.
Procrastination is underrated according to Frank Partnoy. In his recently published book, “Wait: The Art and Science of Delay”, he discusses the possibility that there is too much pressure to make quick choices and that we can all benefit from taking the maximum time allotted before making a decision.
Professor Frank Partnoy is a Professor of Law and Finance and the director of the Center on Corporate and Securities Law at the University of San Diego. He is one of the world’s leading experts on the complexities of modern finance and financial market regulation.
In his book he draws a relationship between delayed responses and successful actions. The stock market, sports and dating are a number of examples he uses to show that measured, calculated and patient responses are superlative. It’s important to note though that he is not insisting you drag out the decision making process unnecessarily. He is simply saying, that once you ascertain the appropriate time frame, allow yourself until the very last moment to arrive at the outcome. This way you are likely to make a better decision.
In “Blink” a book about rapid cognition, Malcom Gladwell supports the theory that often our first decision is the right one, but even so he references gut instinct as a successful tool for experts. Partnoy does not overlook the need for urgency; rather he cites studies that show emergency room doctors who practice waiting one minute longer before deciding how to treat a life threatening injury have better success in saving the lives of their patients. The reality is though that almost all the decisions that we make in our lives every day are not life threatening, including choosing who we date, so ultimately time is a luxury we do have. Why rush it?
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Matchmakers Say Singles Should Celebrate Unattached Status
If you don’t have a husband or wife at home, you should be celebrating this week. The third full week of September has been dedicated to Americans who are unmarried and single. Whether you’ve never been married, are divorced, or widowed this week is all about you.
The goal of ‘Unmarried Singles Americans Week’ is to celebrate and recognize solo Americans. New census figures shows unmarried Americans are a big part of the population, and those who work with singles locally say more and more are unattached by choice.
When specialty dating service It’s Just Lunch asked 5000 singles, “When you are on a first date, what thought is going through your head?” they received an unexpected result: Not only did men and women have different top answers, but the first choice given by 47% of men, “Could we have a relationship together?”
The good news for doctors who expect to work weekends and get paged at 3 a.m. at some point in the near future is that life does get easier, says Parrott. Translation: You’ll have more opportunities to meet someone and go on dates, even if you’re no longer treated to med-school mixers. Melissa Brown, president of national dating service It’s Just Lunch, which counts a growing number of doctors in its client base, suggests committing to at least a few hours a week for dating whether you’re just starting your residency or are an established doctor.
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Liam pairs up with Diablo Magazine to find the best date spots in the bay area and then we’ll sit down with Bay Area locals to hear their dating stories plus get a bit of professional advice from San Francisco’s “Its Just Lunch” dating experts on how to find a date and keep them happy!
It’s Just Lunch, a dating service for busy professionals, surveyed 3,968 singles nationwide about how much they spend on dates. It found that 51% of men in the U.S. spend more than $100 a month on dates, and 29% spend more than $150. In bigger cities, those figures are higher. For example, 82% of men in Los Angeles spend more than $150 a month on dates.
Women, on the other hand, spend significantly less. About two-thirds of women spend less than $50 a month. Perhaps it’s a sign that the Southern gentleman is still around, but 75% of women in the South spend less than $50 a month on dates.
PJ Osgood of It’s Just Lunch was in the no-chat camp until recently when she met a guy from a flight between Houston and Chicago and they decided to share a cab into the city.
“We had this great conversation and we exchanged business cards and the next day we went out to dinner,” Osgood says.
A love connection was not to be (no chemistry, she says), but he was worth meeting, and this got Osgood, a frequent traveler, thinking she’s been missing opportunities aloft.
Can you really meet your future mate at a Halloween party? Forty-six percent (46%) of those polled think you can, and in fact that this is a great place to meet singles. Forty-seven percent (47%), however, say they would never show up solo to a Halloween costume party – not even in disguise. Men are more likely to attend solo; 57% say it’s the best place to meet single women, while 50% of women say they would never show up solo to a Halloween costume party.